How can a husband cultivate an atmosphere of holy joy at home if his wife struggles with chronic sadness or depression?
On this podcast, we talk a lot about joy. And that means we field a lot of necessary questions about joylessness. We’ve also talked in the past about husbands taking the lead on seeking to grow the joy of their own homes — I’m thinking back to APJ 255: “Dad’s Role in Homemaking” — one of my favorites in the history of this podcast. But what about when this task seems especially impossible? It’s a question from an anonymous man.
“Hello, Pastor John. I would love your advice for my marriage. My wife and I have been married for nearly eighteen years and have three young children. By her own admission, my wife is an ‘Eeyore’ type personality. There are seasons where her gloominess, and maybe borderline depression, persists and has a significant impact on the joy in our home. I feel helpless to help. When I try to address the issue with her, she ends up feeling like a failure and sinks even lower. What can I do to help her, Pastor John? I’m committed to our marriage covenant and desire that she and our family flourish.”