Sex in marriage, just like other physical gifts from God, is not an absolute cure for lust, but it can be a great help in the battle.
Will marriage cure my lust? That’s today’s question from an unmarried listener named Mark. “Dear Pastor John, I’m a 22-year-old burdened with strong sexual desires. Sometimes I submit to the flesh and look at pornography. I hate this and am fighting against this sin with the help of friends.
“In the meantime, I have some friends who seek to care for my soul by quoting the apostle Paul — ‘For it is better to marry than to burn with passion’ (1 Corinthians 7:9) — and they say I should marry soon. But I also have married friends who assure me that marriage will not cure my lust and tell me it would be a battle I would carry into marriage! I’m confused. If marriage cures lust, I should marry soon. If it doesn’t cure lust, then I need to work on personal purity now, without urgency to marry. Which is it?”